Most men experience orgasm and ejaculation simultaneously. But they are actually two different physiological occurrences, and by learning to delay ejaculation, men can begin to experience multiple orgasms.

Turn yourself on. Jumpstart your arousal by fantasizing about a steamy sexual encounter, or replaying a scene from a favorite adult film. Put on some sexy music, read some erotica, or watch an X-rated movie if that gets you in the mood.

Squeeze your PC muscle. This is the muscle you use when you stop a stream of urine in mid-flow. It surrounds your pelvic area, and strengthening it can help with ejaculatory control, stronger erections, and more intense orgasms. You can exercise your PC muscle anywhere by squeezing, holding, then releasing, and doing several reps throughout the day. For now, stop periodically to squeeze and release while masturbating.

Tease yourself. Masturbate using your favorite method (use lube on your penis). You want to stop just before you hit the point of no return (when ejaculation is inevitable) and employ any of the following techniques.

Squeeze and breathe. Since ejaculate passes the prostate on its way out, squeezing your PC muscle can help constrict the flow. If you combine this with deep breathing, you will be able to relax more quickly and drop down into a different kind of orgasm. It may be subtle at first, but with practice, you should be able to build on this so the orgasms are just as strong as your previous ejaculation orgasms.

Don’t ejaculate. There are a few way to stop yourself from ejaculating, so play around with them and see which ones work best for you. When you get close to coming: squeeze the tip of the penis by making a ring around the glands, squeeze the base of your penis use your thumb and fore finger to encircle your balls and pull them away from your body apply pressure with your thumb against your perineum, the spot between your testicles and your anus.

Orgasm minus the ejaculate. Once you’re able to back off when you’re ready to come, you’ll experience what the authors of “The Multi-Orgasmic Man” call “contractile phase orgasms.” They may not be subtle initially, but if you focus on the sensation, you should feel several contractions. With practice these orgasms will get stronger and will feel every bit as powerful as your former orgasms.

Add a toy. Your PC muscle contracts around the prostate during orgasm, so try this exercise while wearing a butt plug and your contractions may feel more intense (it’s the same principal as women using a resistive device in their vaginas while doing Kegel or PC muscle exercises.)

Pay attention to your full body experience. The Taoists, early proponents of this technique, believed that the ejaculate which was formerly expelled from the body is now redirected internally, infusing it with more sexual energy. Many men claim that they feel rejuvenated, and that orgasm is felt more throughout the body rather than just the genitals.